Lessons Learned

I’ve learned that moving into the acceptance stage of estrangement grief is a challenging choice. Acceptance requires courage and vulnerability. Only with acceptance can we begin to make changes that prepare us for opportunities to open communication. The commitment needed to accept our adult child on their terms – to honestly reflect, acknowledge our fallibility, and take them for who they are – is significant.

I’ve learned that self-discovery and personal growth begin by allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, opening ourselves up to the truths tucked far away in the dark corners, and choosing to have difficult conversations with ourselves and others.

I've learned that the choice to move into acceptance allows us to uncover the roots of issues that inhibit us from recognizing the needs and desires of those we hold most dear - our adult children. By holding on to our hopes and dreams for our children as they move into adulthood, we risk losing perspective. 

I've learned the path to reconciliation is littered with good intentions. The journey is often painfully revealing and requires grit to see ourselves as they do. And! Ultimately, our work in acceptance and beyond results in newfound strength, focus and purpose. 

In helping people deal with relational conflict, I’ve developed strategies and tools to assist you in these dark wintery times.

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